Sunday, February 1, 2009
Monday, January 26, 2009
Signs That Your Date Is Not The One

After enduring weeks of single girl sympathy, you finally agreed to let your cousin set you up with that "great guy" she knows. Since you said yes, you figure you might as well make the most of it and keep an open mind. But, just in case, you ask your best friend to call your cell about a half hour into the date so you can fake an emergency if needed.
Actually, it's not even faking. Bad dates are emergencies. However, lucky for you, there are warning signs that the person you are out with is, and always will be, a terrible date. If you are unlucky enough to experience any of them first hand, make sure to answer your friend's call saying, "Oh no! That's terrible! I'll be right over."
He's Late
This one is pretty basic. If a guy doesn't have enough enthusiasm for the date to actually show up on time, you shouldn't expect to be impressed by the rest of the night. Obviously, there are times when you just can't help it, but he'd better have a good reason if he shows up at your door even 15 minutes late.
He's Not Dressed to Impress
You've spent hours on your hair and a pile of rejected clothes covers your bed. You are finally dressed to the nines in the perfect outfit and ready for the evening. You open the door and are surprised to be greeted by your date in torn jeans and a stained t-shirt. You doubt he's washed his hair today (or yesterday). You expected a nice night out and he shows up looking like he's dressed for a monster truck rally.
He Takes you to a Monster Truck Rally
Original and unique first dates are a great way to stand out from the rest of the fish in the sea, but there are exceptions. He should at least do a little research into your style before he plans an unusual activity. Sure, he might really love hot dogs and monster trucks, but if you were thinking fine dining and theatre, there's bound to be trouble.
The fact that he didn't bother to ask your opinion beforehand (or at least get the matchmaker's thoughts on the plan) doesn't bode well for how he's going to respect your needs and wants in the future.
He Expects You to Pay
It's not absolutely necessary that he pick up the check. Along with all those useful freedoms like voting, the feminist movement also brought us the responsibility of at least offering to pay for half the date. Most guys still think it's chivalrous to pick up the tab for the first date and there's nothing wrong with indulging his male ego (after an appropriate amount of protesting of course).
No girl is expecting a man to drop a fortune on a first date, but a guy who expects you to pay for everything without lifting a finger to open his own wallet doesn't give off the impression that he cares much what you think of him. In fact, he probably won't see a second date (and maybe not even the end of the first one). A good rule of thumb for payment is: whoever asks for the date, pays for the date.
He Talks About his Ex
So maybe you escaped the monster truck rally, but instead of choking on exhaust fumes and standing in a sea of drunken mullets, you get to hear all about his wonderful or horrible ex-girlfriend. Bonus trouble points if he had a nasty breakup and insists on sharing the details with you.
If he refers to his ex even once with a derogatory insult that you wouldn't call your worst enemy, run for the hills now. It's not a good sign if he can't say anything nice about the last woman with whom he had a significant relationship.
How Can I Put This.? He's a Weirdo.
Yes, it's time to weed out those with personal quirks that you find distasteful or generally unacceptable. This will be different for every woman of course (some chicks really dig witchcraft, guys that live with their moms or Dungeons and Dragons enthusiasts). Regardless, that tight knot that is forming in your stomach while you listen to his ideas, habits and activities, should not be ignored.
Awkward Moments vs. Awkward Hours
When he's not filling you in on his wacky life, the conversation stalls into silence or unintelligible grunting. It's normal to have a little awkwardness or difficulty getting conversation to flow in the beginning of a first date, but if after a few minutes, he still can't think of a single question to ask about your life or keep up with the conversation, it's time to call it a night.
If it's twenty minutes in and you've run out of things to talk about, you probably don't have much of a future together.
Saturday, April 5, 2008
Saturday, March 15, 2008
What is Love and Lust ??

Lust is always mistaken as love. Lust is passion. Lust is desire. Lust is therefore not love. It can be difficult for the inexperienced to distinguish between the two emotions. Especially, in the beginning of a relationship when sexual feelings are stronger.
Love
Love is the emotional attachment in a relationship. Love is the sincere feeling of affection and devotion that you have for your partner. It is a deep, profound, and pure emotion that does not sway easily. Love is an emotion that can take years to build up and can only be felt for someone you hold dear.
Lust
And then there is lust. Lust can be felt towards anybody with a sufficient amount of sexual appeal. Lust is so sensual in it's raw nature of being and can be formed instantly. It is a strong, excessive craving for sexual intimacy that can be difficult to control.
It is probably lust if sex is the main basis of your relationship. Can't keep your hands off each other? Is sex the only thing that you look forward to with this person? It is probably lust. A relationship founded on lust will only last as long as the two people involved are sexually attracted to one another; this can wear off fast.
Sunday, February 24, 2008
Sunday, February 3, 2008
Saturday, August 4, 2007
Monday, April 2, 2007
Love Letters-An Animated Proposal
Wednesday, March 7, 2007
The Language of love
I was confused. He knows he's got to give me fair warning if he wants to have sex, because I have to start taking the medication at least three days beforehand. Also, I thought we had celebrated Valentine's Day on, well, Valentine's Day.
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I put this to him, but he, with the almost pathological modesty that was one of the first things that attracted me to him, professed not to recall any romantic observances on the day. "What can you mean?" I said. "I vividly remember being gently coaxed out of slumber by the romantic sound of you smashing the lavatory seat down as if it had done you a grievous personal wrong. Then I remember coming downstairs to find that you had spattered drops of tea over seven cupboard doors in the kitchen, which I assume spelled out 'Lucy, you are my heart, my soul, my everything' in English Breakfast Morse code, because the alternative would be that you were a 33-year-old man incapable of transporting a teabag cleanly across the three feet separating the kettle from the bin.
"Then I stepped, in bare feet, on to the shards of broken mugs, glasses, crystal heirlooms, Lalique collectibles and assorted other detritus that marked your passage to bed the night before. And, as I picked the splinters from my injured soles, I reflected delightedly on the effort you had gone to in order to arrange this obliquely tender and poetically imaginative tribute to our coupledom on this special day. The mélange of shattered glass glinting in the early morning sun - symbolic of both the fragility of love and of the jewels you hope one day to shower upon me - and bleeding flesh, so sweetly emblematic of our tortured relationship, both touched and impressed me. Because otherwise it would have been very much the case that I was just sitting on cold lino with lacerated feet because you are a malcoordinated troglodyte who can remember every sarcastic remark ever deployed by Bismarck against the Reichstag but not where we keep the dustpan and brush. So, to sum up," I finished, "I could surely ask for no more loving homage from you. What can these belated celebrations of which you speak comprise?"
It turns out that they comprise two nights in a Norfolk B&B so I can freeze to death while he inspects churches and gets overexcited at the sight of quatrefoil piers and hollow-chamfered arches.
Still, I am impressed with the boarding house accommodation he has found for us. It is run by an Irishwoman by the name of Mrs O'Gre, who took one look at my naked left hand and announced that she would be putting us in the attic room so we "could be closer to God".
It has two single beds that are bolted to the floor and both mattresses are lined with rubber sheeting, which I am tempted to tell her will only encourage indulgence in deviant sexual practices among a certain subsection of the populace, rather than turn their attentions to more spiritual pursuits. But I don't. I lie back contemplatively in the cold pool of perspiration that has gathered in the mattress and reason that at least it will make returning to my tea-stained, glass-strewn midden of a house a welcome relief.
Maybe this was Toryboy's plan all along. What a thoughtful man he is.
Sunday, February 18, 2007
Bullet For My Valletine
It's cool song, is it true love or desire for sex..think about it...
Have fun...
Saturday, February 3, 2007
Valentine Flower Tips For Guys On The Go
It's tough to be romantic when you're on the go, working 12 hours a day, and juggling mulitple priorities. No wonder that on a romance scale of 1 to 10, only 19% of women rate their boyfriend, husband, or significant other a 7 or higher. But, wait guys; there's help. Even if you're on the go, you can boost your romance quotient this Valentines. Here's how.
Don't fret about choosing the right gift.
Flowers are still the most desired gift from an admirer and to express love. They're personal, romantic, and according to researchers at Rutgers University, actually raise peoples spirits. In one study with 147 women of varying ages, those who received flowers smiled significantly more than those who received other gifts. Fresh, colorful flowers evoke happy feelings. Other studies indicate that flowers actually improve emotional health and make people feel more connected. According to professor Jeannette Haviland-Jones, PhD, "The phrase 'stop and smell the roses' may have a touch of genius in it."
Order early.
Sending Valentines flowers is fast and easy! There are wonderful local florists in virtually every town, as well as dozens of leading online florists that deliver nationwide. And, ordering only takes a few minutes. So, don't let your busy schedule get in the way. Just pick up the phone or shop online. But, remember, Valentines is the "Superbowl" of flower holidays, with five to ten times the normal volume of deliveries. So, for the best selection, service, and pricing, it's best to order early. You'll be glad you did.
Sending flowers to where she works?
That's a great idea. It can brighten her whole week, she'll be reminded of you every time she looks at them, and co-workers comments are a big plus, too. But, here's a helpful tip from Romeos in the know. With million of deliveries on Valentine's Day, flowers can arrive almost anytime. So, play it safe. Ask for delivery the day before Valentine's. That way your gift will be even more of a pleasant surprise and is sure to be enjoyed throughout all of Valentine's Day. In other words, you look like you were planning ahead and avoid any risk of your gift looking like a last-minute afterthought.
There's more to Valentines than just red roses.
While beautiful long-stem red roses are still the most popular Valentine's flower gift, there are lots of other options for every taste and budget. Many women prefer pretty pastel roses in pink, peach, yellow, or assorted spring colors. They can make you stand out from the crowd. And, almost half of all Valentine's bouquets aren't roses at all; they're lush mixed bouquets and spring flowers such as tulips. Choosing something unique can show you remember your sweetheart's favorite color or flower. Your favorite florist will have a great selection and can quickly help you with the best choice.
Remember flowers after Valentine's too.
What's the best way for a man to make a lasting impression on a woman? Research shows that the answer to making a memorable impact is right under his nose -- with flowers. Ninety-two percent of women can remember the last time they received flowers, and 89% agree that receiving flowers makes them feel special. “If the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, then the pathway to a woman’s heart is through her other senses,” says Rebecca Cole, of Discovery Channel’s Surprise By Design. “Flowers are a sensual gift that can express any emotion so simply - with just a little knowledge and a phone call to your florist.” And, flowers given for no special reason may be the most special of all. So, light a fire with flowers this Valentine's. And, keep it burning with a surprise gift of flowers anytime throughout the year.
By John E. Williams courtesy of 1-800-FLORALS. Award-winning same-day and next-day flowers delivery throughout the USA and Canada plus international flowers by wire. Since 1923.
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Monday, January 29, 2007
If you want to be loved
I am sorry if I seem obsessed with this topic lately. Hahaha. I have been involved in a very long - like 6-month long - conversation about love and insanity and hope and weighing needs against ideals and everything like that. It is neverending. The person I am having this conversation with is crazy and beautiful and amazing and wise and kind...and sometimes the opposite of all of that. There are times when I feel like I am in love with him, and there are times when I feel like that would be the absolute dumbest idea in the world. But either way, this whole epic discussion is making me think. Hard. About what I value, what I need, what I want...and what I am willing to compromise. And, really, either way it is moot. Because we will most likely never be together...for various reasons - some his and some mine.
It sounds both more and less tragic than it actually is. You know? On the one hand, how wonderful that I have this person with whom I can share so much without having to worry about all of that relationship crap with. On the other hand...there are times when the idea of us together is painfully desirable, and the reasons why we can't be are almost Shakespearian in drama and in convolution. Of course, there are also simple and logistical reasons for the way things are, but that's no fun to focus on! Hahaha.
But anyway, I keep having these really revelatory conversations with this person that seem to apply only to him or me or him and me, but in actuality are fairly universal. I should probably look back on them in times of distance to see what I can dig up. But recently, there has been a lot having to do with safety and honesty and whether you can actually preserve stability by being dishonest. I guess I had never considered before that honesty can cause instability, and that people need to be prepared to deal with that consequence if they choose to be honest. And that some people choose to be dishonest rather than risk causing instability.
I am also learning a lot about trusting my instincts to love people. And to allow second and third and fourth chances. And allowing someone to give me second and third and fourth chances. It is a friendship, but it is way deeper than that. It is painful, but it gives so much wisdom and fulfillment in return. I feel like, yeah, like there is a reason this person is in my life in the way that he is. I am thankful for his presence even though sometimes I want to kick him in the shins and stick my tongue out at him. He is a challenge, and he is delightful. He is a stubborn, obnoxious brat, and he is adorable. He is my friend, and I love him without measure.
What more can I say?




